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!Free Pdf ♜ The Hurried Child: Growing Up Too Fast Too Soon ☫ With the first two editions of this landmark work, Dr David Elkind eloquently called our attention to the dangers of exposing our children to overwhelming pressures, pressures that can lead to a wide range of childhood and teenage crises Internationally recognized as the voice of reason and compassion, Dr Elkind showed that in blurring the boundaries of what is age appr Venture Capital and Private Equity Dr David Elkind eloquently called our attention to the dangers of exposing our children to overwhelming pressures Dear Annie pressures that can lead to a wide range of childhood and teenage crises Internationally recognized as the voice of reason and compassion Hazmat Medical Life Support Dr Elkind showed that in blurring the boundaries of what is age appr So, my 4 star rating here splits the middle honestly, there are parts of the book that are very 3 and others, especially toward the end, that are solidly 5 It s not the author s fault The topic of childhood in contemporary society is risky because contemporary society today is changing at a break neck pace As a result, the first half of the book felt hopelessly behind the times, as the author tried to explain how he sees our society trying to hurry children On the other hand, the cont So, my 4 star rating here splits the middle honestly, there are parts of the book that are very 3 and others, especially toward the end, that are solidly 5 It s not the author s fault The topic of childhood in contemporary society is risky because contemporary society today is changing at a break neck pace As a result, the first half of the book felt hopelessly behind the times, as the author tried to explain how he sees our society trying to hurry children On the other hand, the contrast between the times he describes and today highlights for me eventhe illness we have of hurrying our kids I see evenof a paradox today though we hurry them giving them a personal cell phone and access to much of the world they don t even understand yet too young but we also hover about them and keep them from taking healthy riskslike walking across the street alone The contradictions are maddening, and I believe we see them play out in the kids in schools They master content I never was asked to master in high school, they play athletics at a level I rarely saw when I was in high school, and yet they are hopeless in regard to their own ability to remember, to schedule, to complete responsibilities Back to the book the final 3 chapters were by far the most universal, spanning the gap in time and culture These had real value and insights into how stress affects kids and how families and schools can mitigate the effects, leading to some self responsibility on the part of the adults to watch their own stress levels and take care of themselves It s worthy of reading, but I think there are some dated chapters that could be glossed over in favor of theuniversal stuff I can t say that I am with or against the ideas of this book, the thing that I would like to share is that I beleive that parents should have an inner scale to when and how much should they encaurage their children and when to stop. Extremely negative about working mothers and single mothers The author had some good things to say, but it was hard to get past his clearly biased anecdotal rants against homes that did not resemble the Donna reed show. This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers To view it, click here Our new conception of children and youth is epitomized in the metaphor of the Superkid Like Superman, Superkid has spectacular powers and precocious competence even as an infant This allows us to think that we can hurry the little powerhouse with impunityThe conception of children as competent to deal with, and indeed as benefiting from, everything and anything that life has to offer was an effective rationalization for parents who continue to love their children but who have neither t Our new conception of children and youth is epitomized in the metaphor of the Superkid Like Superman, Superkid has spectacular powers and precocious competence even as an infant This allows us to think that we can hurry the little powerhouse with impunityThe conception of children as competent to deal with, and indeed as benefiting from, everything and anything that life has to offer was an effective rationalization for parents who continue to love their children but who have neither the time, nor the energy, for childhoodOur contemporary conception of Superkid, thenmust be seen as a social invention to alleviate parental anxiety and guilt It took me five months to read this book and it was worth every moment Not everyone will share Elkind s opinions about childhood, but I certainly do I appreciate seeing even the small ways we can hurry our children and rob them of their childhood, so that I can avoid making those mistakes I plan to regularly revisit this book as my children grow to reexamine how I can help them become healthy, happy adults through each stage of their development This book was first written in 1981 with several revised editions since I liked Elkind s book on children s play better This one at times seems very opinionated, and somewhat judgmental to say the least when he describes women going to work and the impact on childrenOverall, parents have a contract with children and when we hurry them we break that contract and the underlying bond of trust Hurrying happens by having them watch inappropriate content on TV or asking them to care for themselv This book was first written in 1981 with several revised editions since I liked Elkind s book on children s play better This one at times seems very opinionated, and somewhat judgmental to say the least when he describes women going to work and the impact on childrenOverall, parents have a contract with children and when we hurry them we break that contract and the underlying bond of trust Hurrying happens by having them watch inappropriate content on TV or asking them to care for themselves too soon, or not putting them to bed on time, pressuring them academically too early etc.A quote I liked a lot was Young children believe that adults are all knowing and all wise When we confront them with tasks for which they are not ready such as tests, workbooks, and homework these children blame themselves for failure If this all wise, all knowing person tells me I should be able to do this and I can t, there must be something wrong with me He often refers to the tendency in this country to have children learn to read before the age of 6, which would be the developmentally appropriate age to learn to read some say it s at 7 In sum adults should respect their developmental stage, which seems to me rather obvious, but Elkind was able to tease out this mistake in detail and explain the subtle but no less damaging impact on children who are hurried Folks, don t put mascara on your twelve year old, don t buy it for her, either Elkind makes a lot of really strong points here This book isgeared toward those who are raising children parent guardiansso many, many grandparents raising kids these days than toward educators, who follow the school or district s policies regardlessThe last chapter draws a lot of extremely conservative conclusions with which I would not care to be associated, and this is why the final star is denie Folks, don t put mascara on your twelve year old, don t buy it for her, either Elkind makes a lot of really strong points here This book isgeared toward those who are raising children parent guardiansso many, many grandparents raising kids these days than toward educators, who follow the school or district s policies regardlessThe last chapter draws a lot of extremely conservative conclusions with which I would not care to be associated, and this is why the final star is denied However, in this day and age in which kids in fifth grade come home and announce they have a boyfriend, in which teensy children are packed off to beauty contests carefully coiffed, manicured, and covered in cosmetics, this is a breath of healthy, let s get real common sense.If you are a parent who is not sure what children should do as they move past early childhood, or if you have questions about adolescents, this is a good read Sadly, the people who should most read this book probably won t, and those who are already doing a pretty decent job probably will.Still, highly recommended I read this book for one of my developmental classes and I love it Every parent or will be parent should read this It talks about how we as Americans are trying to get our children to grow up too fast and the consequences we as a nation are facing Over scheduling and the pressure to do better than everyone else are just some of the topics discussed I didn t think I would enjoy it but once I opened the cover, it was hard to stop. David Elkind, Ph D., describes the Hurried Child as one who is forced to grow up too fast too soon In American society, which highly values competition and the earlier the better mentality, the condition is pandemic, caused by the chronic exploitation of children s talents and time for purposes other than their direct benefit, by a combination of pressures from parents, commercial media, and school Though much Hurrying can be defended as an earnest effort by parents to ensure a good future David Elkind, Ph D., describes the Hurried Child as one who is forced to grow up too fast too soon In American society, which highly values competition and the earlier the better mentality, the condition is pandemic, caused by the chronic exploitation of children s talents and time for purposes other than their direct benefit, by a combination of pressures from parents, commercial media, and school Though much Hurrying can be defended as an earnest effort by parents to ensure a good future for a child good grades to get into college, sports achievement to win a scholarship, etc symptoms of rebellion, learning difficulties, burnout, neuroses, and poor self image and interpersonal relationships indicate that a contractual relational boundary has been crossed When children feel treated as an object to be controlled, rather than as human with feelings, dignity and a right to opinion, they translate this as rejection by those who have the most power to hurt or nurture them Especially once they reach adolescence and can articulate these feelings of manipulation, they may retaliate by underperforming or lashing out Causes of parental hurrying include adults insecurities, dual income schedules, and divorces that sap children s time and loyalties.Modern schooling further hurries children by classifying them all into conformist, academic roles for the purpose of grade getting, teacher job retention and school funding Kids know they are pawns in a system that only cares for what they can produce Unmanageable class size, with limited ability to protect students from violence in unsupervised settings or to teach them according to learning styles or aptitudes, long school days with few tangible rewards, as well as constant interruptions and distractions, create increasingly higher hoops children must jump through in order to appease those in authority over them.In addition, visual media versus books that can be put down in order to process content deluge children with an overwhelming amount of images and concepts that they are developmentally too immature to process As a result, children suffer information overload, fears and gross factual misunderstanding The harmful effects of Hurrying can be mitigated by thoughtful teachers and parents Treating children with respect and manners rather than barking commands limiting, monitoring, and discussing media for content adjust class sizes and content to reward individual styles of learning and aptitudes and inclusion of open ended play without sneaky learning agendas, as well as ample opportunities for healthy self expression in arts and music, especially when these do not reflect a parent s ideal image Hurrying is basically undue stress for children, and the effects are often the opposite of the intended purposes of childhood activity Relieving these symptoms creates happier,engaged kids who can learn for the pure joy of learning and pursue their own life s calling at their God given pace Please, don t use your children to fulfill your own wishes Be their leader, their confidant, their best cheer leader, and the one who loves them deeply from the heart Teach all you can, challenge them to take responsibility, and realize that they are a unique beautiful person with the possibility of great things wrapped up in fragile paper They are a gift you are given to care for, not a possession or resource that you can use.