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READ PDF ô Love You Like the Sky: Surviving the Suicide of a Beloved ä Writing from the unique point of view of a suicide survivor who is also a psychologist, Sarah Neustadter presents a selection of the emails she sent to John, her deceased beloved, over a three year period following his death Documenting the raw emotions she experienced during this time period grief, despair, abandonment, confusion, and the seductive feeling of wanting to die she seeks to answer the hard existential and psychological questions Why is this happening What does this mean about mortality How do I go on with the rest of my life without my beloved How do I heal my broken heart Will I ever love again Love You Like the Sky is a companion guide and roadmap for supporting younger women and men through intense and complicated grief as an access point toward deeper transformation shifting awareness from despair to beauty The Visual Dictionary of Ships and Sailing Sarah Neustadter presents a selection of the emails she sent to John Fact and Artifact: Writing Nonfiction her deceased beloved The Suicide Exhibition (The Never War over a three year period following his death Documenting the raw emotions she experienced during this time period grief The Suicide Exhibition despair Language, Truth, and Logic abandonment Uniform Dolls confusion Short Stories by William Faulkner and the seductive feeling of wanting to die she seeks to answer the hard existential and psychological questions Why is this happening What does this mean about mortality How do I go on with the rest of my life without my beloved How do I heal my broken heart Will I ever love again Love You Like the Sky is a companion guide and roadmap for supporting younger women and men through intense and complicated grief as an access point toward deeper transformation shifting awareness from despair to beauty When picking up another book from my public library, I noticed a table for Suicide Awareness and Prevention month This piece of literature caught my eye I found myself learning quite a bit about grief and anger in tragic situations It also pointed out different suicide triggers and behaviors to be aware of which could be beneficial in my future. I borrowed this book from the library because someone I know lost her husband to suicide It was a really touching story of how she tried to come to a peace with the death of her fiance and significant other I cried while reading this book, how can you not Dr Sarah shares some intimate details of the death of her fiance and how she moves into a new phase of her life without him It s hard to explain in too much detail this book She basically covers her path through the letters she wrote to J I borrowed this book from the library because someone I know lost her husband to suicide It was a really touching story of how she tried to come to a peace with the death of her fiance and significant other I cried while reading this book, how can you not Dr Sarah shares some intimate details of the death of her fiance and how she moves into a new phase of her life without him It s hard to explain in too much detail this book She basically covers her path through the letters she wrote to John while she was coming to grips with her new life Quotes When I got off the phone, Laura touched me gently on the shoulder Sarah, do you have a support system I nodded weakly Yeah, but I don t want to call them yet to protect John s privacy Sarah She looked me straight in the eyes We need to worry about you now You need to call your support system And you need to call them now p 47 God, and we used to dance all the time Everywhere, and at any opportunity in my bedroom as we got dressed in the mornings, in my bedroom as we celebrated the end of the day, in my black and white checkered kitchen, in parking lots, Burger King, clubs, at dawn by the eucalyptus trees wherever music played, we were sure to move to it together And then we took those delightful ballroom dance lessons Friday nights at the community center We were the youngest couple there The men were supposed to rotate around the circle and switch partners, but we never let go of one another p 54 Also, everyone grieves differently, and there is no right way or wrong way to go through your grief The important thing is that you actually grieve that you allow yourself to feel the pain and go through the stages If you don t do the hard work of grieving, the grief will get stuck in your nervous system and in your subconscious and eventually start to bleed out into your life and your behaviors at a later time This is that psychologists call unresolved or complicated grief What you don t handle now, you will feel the effects of later Unfortunately p 75 The seeds of what you did were planted a long time ago, before I even knew you, she d said Your problems were rooteddeeply than anyone had known This resonated for me, and hearing it shifted something inside I experienced my own frailty, my humanity I had so wanted to save you and rescue you from your confusion and pain What I want to say to you now and I m sure you know this already, but it s worth repeating in writing, at least for me is that you are the one 100 percent responsible for what you did and for what happened No one else I am not responsible You are God knows I ve felt responsible and blamed myself for not having superhuman powers to redeem your fate, to have foreseen your death, and to swoosh in and scoop you up off the train tracks in the nick of time It s been a sobering lesson internalizing this truth about myself As much as I wish I did, I don t have that kind of power I m only human p 106 I had poured myself into you, loved you hugely Your death had made me lose myself swallowed up in grief and after life codependency I had stopped valuing who I was and all I had to offer Instead, I fell into my usual pattern of being led by men, of giving up myself or parts of myself to be with the man I loved I was once again being led by you How far was I going to take this I would ve given up my life to be with you Would you have done the same for me Obviously not You couldn t even meet me halfway when you were alive What had you done for me that wasn t ultimately about you Kill myself for you Hell no Not any When you killed yourself, I d let you steal my power I wanted it back p 122 My heart was broken open I m learning about what s inside, what delights me, and what feels painful I m learning to sing my own song and create a life of beauty and purpose A life that is no longer about you and about getting to you but about the imaginings of my own heart I m snipping away the codependent cords that keep my happiness tied to you p 164 165 I had a unique opportunity through the Booksharks community to review an advanced copy of Love You Like the Sky which publishes on June 4th Pre order fromhere One night in November 2008, John laid down next to the train tracks and took his own life Devastated, his girlfriend Sarah begins to send John emails expressing her emotions surrounding his suicide This book is a collection of those emails They detail Sarah s journey from despair to shifting to beauty and her walk through I had a unique opportunity through the Booksharks community to review an advanced copy of Love You Like the Sky which publishes on June 4th Pre order fromhere One night in November 2008, John laid down next to the train tracks and took his own life Devastated, his girlfriend Sarah begins to send John emails expressing her emotions surrounding his suicide This book is a collection of those emails They detail Sarah s journey from despair to shifting to beauty and her walk through the stages of grief shock, bargaining, depression, anger, and acceptance I must say that I m not personally a suicide survivor so there were parts of the book that I couldn t personally relate to, but I can definitely see how somebody with personal ties to suicide or people trying to provide support would benefit immensely from this book Sarah does such a great job displaying her real, raw, unfiltered, and unapologetic emotions, sending the message, You are not alone I felt this pain There is hope at the end of the tunnel I personally enjoyed that she broke this book into three separate and distinct sections that may be applicable to different people based on the stage of grief they re currently experiencing And at the end of each section, she gives helpful advice and tips on ways to work through the emotional trauma There is a little bit of something for everybody with all different belief systems Sarah discusses her psychic abilities and clairvoyance which aren t things that I personally believe in, but I can appreciate the value that it may provide to somebody else Having experience a miscarriage last year I was hoping to garner some pearls of wisdom on how to work through the grief associated with that experience There were little morsels along the way that I picked up and will take with me so I appreciate Sarah for that But by and large, this is a book about surviving the suicide of a loved one and the content is specifically targeted to that audience so it s not entirely translatable to other forms of grief If you re a suicide survivor or are supporting a suicide survivor, I would highly recommend this book Even if you can only make it through the despair portion and aren t yet ready to process the shifting section You may be able to come back to it at a later date and work your way through the content in a way that is meaningful as you process your traumaI received an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review Thank you to the Booksharks community, SparkPress, and Sarah Neustadter for the opportunity to review Dr Sarah Neustadter knows grief As the one left behind when her beloved takes his life she is the one who is left to work through the many stages of grief and incredible pain The book is written in a very interesting and engaging format with chapters devoted to emails that Sarah sends to John after his death While the emails are obviously not seen by John they are therapeutic and provide a method for Sarah to express her emotions and feelings after the loss of the one whom she loved.This is Dr Sarah Neustadter knows grief As the one left behind when her beloved takes his life she is the one who is left to work through the many stages of grief and incredible pain The book is written in a very interesting and engaging format with chapters devoted to emails that Sarah sends to John after his death While the emails are obviously not seen by John they are therapeutic and provide a method for Sarah to express her emotions and feelings after the loss of the one whom she loved.This is a pretty raw look into the life of someone who was left behind and while Sarah at times contemplates what her options are including suicide she comes to the conclusion that she is not willing to impart the pain and suffering on her loved ones that she herself is experiencing.Honest, raw, emotional, jarring and grief filled this book is a step behind the scenes of the lives of these two professionals and how their relationship evolved, the challenges that they faced, the obstacles that they were over to overcome and finally the way that the author was able to deal with the overwhelming grief that she found herself spiraling down into While the book is part memoir it is also a practical guide for those who might be in similar situations as Dr Neustadter is a psychologist who has infinite knowledge and expertise both professionally and personally with this topic While it was not an easy read for me I could see that it would be helpful to a family member who lost a loved one to suicide Many of the ideas presented are applicable to any grief situation and would be of value to anyone who wants to learn a little bitabout the process and healthy ways to embrace grief Suicide is not an easy topic and I felt that Dr Neustadter approached it with genuine honesty and expertise She did not sugar coat anything and is probably the first to say that the survivor is not going to have an easy time getting through the process With that being said I would recommend this book to anyone who finds themselves in this devastating situation.Special thanks to Tabitha Bailey and Sparkpress for providing me with an Advanced Reader Copy for review