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I guess I intuitively knew there was a hoarding continuum I have one sister who exists very much on the minimalist end of that scale I envy her ease at keeping her house clean and organized My other sister and I inhabit the mid range of the scale, thankfully well away from OMG territory, but we struggle with accumulations of stuff in our homes.It makes complete sense to me that the hoarding tendency goes hand in hand with anxiety issues and with perfectionism My desire to do things not me I guess I intuitively knew there was a hoarding continuum I have one sister who exists very much on the minimalist end of that scale I envy her ease at keeping her house clean and organized My other sister and I inhabit the mid range of the scale, thankfully well away from OMG territory, but we struggle with accumulations of stuff in our homes.It makes complete sense to me that the hoarding tendency goes hand in hand with anxiety issues and with perfectionism My desire to do things not merely well, but excellently often stands in my way when I am sorting household debris if I could just toss things into the dumpster and leave it at that, my home would be much less crowded However, I feel the necessity to recycle as many items as possible making things available for people who have less and keeping things out of the landfill I m starting to see that I need to let go of this perfectionism Even the charities are getting picky about what items they accept and I need to just chuck some things.Anxiety certainly also plays into my issues questions like where exactly is that electronics recycling depot hold me back, because I am reluctant to load the car and hope that I can find the spot I like to know where I am going, but I can t know until I actually go there the first time I ve managed to work myself into the perfect circular loop of inactivity I think one of the best tips in this book is the existence of thought distortions which make it difficult to part with certain objects The whole what if I need this later myth is a great example and one which I have heard directly from my sister s lips The truth is, if we need it later, we can borrow it or rent it or maybe find it second hand The real truth is we are unlikely to EVER need it and it is taking up real estate that could house things that are actually useful.I had already come to see my household accumulations as piles of unmade decisions now I have a few tools to deal with those problem piles And I also have a book recommendation to make to my sister [[ E-PUB ]] ⇸ The Hoarder in You: How to Live a Happier, Healthier, Uncluttered Life ⇱ We all have treasured possessions a favorite pair of shoes, a much beloved chair, an ever expanding record collection But sometimes, this emotional attachment to our belongings can spiral out of control and culminate into a condition called compulsive hoarding From hobbyists and collectors to pack rats and compulsive shoppers it is close to impossible for hoarder Psychology: Themes and Variations Healthier Complete Hungarian Uncluttered Life ⇱ We all have treasured possessions a favorite pair of shoes Goldie and Her Bears (Mischievous Fairy Tales, a much beloved chair Blood Dance (The Lost Lansdale an ever expanding record collection But sometimes Paul: The Founder of Christianity this emotional attachment to our belongings can spiral out of control and culminate into a condition called compulsive hoarding From hobbyists and collectors to pack rats and compulsive shoppers it is close to impossible for hoarder Initial reaction I picked this up from my library as a random read on organization, and this turned out to be a nice resource in the realm of organization and clearing clutter on a psychological level It addresses both cluttered lifestyles and hoarding, and Dr Robin Zasio, psychologist on the series Hoarders, approaches the topic with a myriad of stories, helpful tips, and analysis of such problems on a psychological level I really appreciated that this book takes on the topic on a level o Initial reaction I picked this up from my library as a random read on organization, and this turned out to be a nice resource in the realm of organization and clearing clutter on a psychological level It addresses both cluttered lifestyles and hoarding, and Dr Robin Zasio, psychologist on the series Hoarders, approaches the topic with a myriad of stories, helpful tips, and analysis of such problems on a psychological level I really appreciated that this book takes on the topic on a level of organizational approaches as well as mental emotional examinations.Full review This was a book I picked up a long while ago to search for resources on organization, clutter, and self improvement When I initially came across it at my local library, given that I d seen marathons of the show Hoarders, I jumped at the chance to read it, even if I wouldn t necessarily call myself a hoarder Rather, I mof just a person who looks for different methodologies on organization, and sometimes I incorporate those strategies if it somehow makes meefficient I ll admit, however, there were too many things that I did hold onto when I was younger for fear that I would need them at some point in my life when really I only had use for them once or twice.Cassandra Campbell does a fine job of narrating the audiobook This book not only goes into Zasio s own experiences with some of theextreme examples of hoarding she s seen in her work illustrating stories of her clients to make their transformations all thatvivid , but she offers advice to those who are hoarders and non hoarders about the emotional attachments we make towards our possessions, and how to practically approach organization in a way that mentally and physically clears clutter It also illustrates, to an extent, how clutter plays into anxiety, which is important for understanding the heart of how hoarding develops because it s not just physical disorganization, it has factors in what we think and feel.I definitely would recommend this as an addition to a library for anyone who values literature on organizational systems and self improvement It was a valuable read and one I d readily return to as a resource.Overall score 4 5 stars Yoda time Guilty secret I am a pack rat who dreams of being a minimalist I attach emotional value on clothes, jewelry, gifts, and other items I have clutter closets filled beyond acceptable capacity I am not an extreme hoarder, my house is clean and neat but I am uncomfortable with the level of stuff I do have hidden in my closets I seem to place sentimental value on clothes above all other items, weird huh I figured that out after doing all the questioning steps in this book I found t Yoda time Guilty secret I am a pack rat who dreams of being a minimalist I attach emotional value on clothes, jewelry, gifts, and other items I have clutter closets filled beyond acceptable capacity I am not an extreme hoarder, my house is clean and neat but I am uncomfortable with the level of stuff I do have hidden in my closets I seem to place sentimental value on clothes above all other items, weird huh I figured that out after doing all the questioning steps in this book I found the tie that bound me to these items, time I had with my mother shopping for clothes, a treasured time gift I tried desperately to hold on to I have a distorted view of the impact these items have on me They made me sad at the memories that were so brief and never again, they made me feel guilty for not appreciating her , they made me feel fat for not being that size any, etc I have other small trinkets from broken dreams relationships that I hold on too I morn times gone, the good the bad and the ugly Why did I keep things that only made me sad I did t realize I was till I went through the process of breaking down my reasoning I do to want to tie myself to negative emotions, and I never thought I was till this book open my eyes.This is not a book just for extreme hoarders This will help the cluttered, the chaotic, the disorganized , the person who just has difficulty deciding what to keep Zone control, for those spots that always seem to collect stuff Easy simple steps help you look at what you have how to really feel about it and how you can change that into a realistic pattern It is a short quick read that gets right to the point This is not rocket science it is a retraining of habits learned over many years It takes time, deep breathing and and open heart but it can be done if you follow the steps I would recommend it to just about anyone to get good handle on their clutter even if it s just one drawer In the 1 5 hoarder continuun, from neat freak to hoarder, I am, actually a 4 I don t actually hoard anything with 1 exception and I don t have ANY trouble throwing things away, usually I constantly have a bag of clothes set to donate, I sell stuff at a community yard sale every year That said, I m a huge slob There is crap in every room of my house I throw some away but it s still a total mess So this book gave me hints on how to tackle this in small doses which were helpful I immediate In the 1 5 hoarder continuun, from neat freak to hoarder, I am, actually a 4 I don t actually hoard anything with 1 exception and I don t have ANY trouble throwing things away, usually I constantly have a bag of clothes set to donate, I sell stuff at a community yard sale every year That said, I m a huge slob There is crap in every room of my house I throw some away but it s still a total mess So this book gave me hints on how to tackle this in small doses which were helpful I immediately cleaned out the freezer by asking the question she asks of hoarders to get them to throw out food this might still be safe, but it s probably no longer tasty Also, that Trader Joe s frozen food that you didn t really like Cut your losses You don t want to eat it Throw it out And I did It was interesting However, I think I really need Robin Zasio herself to come over to my house and make me do this de cluttering Kind encouragement of just a little bit at a time can easily become, You know, start whenever That clutter ain t going anywhere I m not really much of a hoarder, but I m always looking for ways to help me get rid of stuff and clear the clutter Unless you have a serious problem with hoarding, only the first part of the book will be useful Unless, of course, you like to read case histories of people who have had pathological hoarding tendencies The one that sticks in my mind from this book is the guy who could not even offer people a place to sit when they came to his house because every surface was covered with dog fig I m not really much of a hoarder, but I m always looking for ways to help me get rid of stuff and clear the clutter Unless you have a serious problem with hoarding, only the first part of the book will be useful Unless, of course, you like to read case histories of people who have had pathological hoarding tendencies The one that sticks in my mind from this book is the guy who could not even offer people a place to sit when they came to his house because every surface was covered with dog figurines Did he even have a real dog The book doesn t say I love the show Hoarders and I love Dr Robin Zasio I picked this up thinking that it was going to be a lot of stories of extreme hoarders as is presented on the TV show While some examples were discussed, this wasof a self help book to help you purge the clutter from your life Even if you are not an extreme hoarder as depicted on the show I still remember that episode when they were pulling out the dead cat bodies from the clutter and the home owner was like so that s what happened to I love the show Hoarders and I love Dr Robin Zasio I picked this up thinking that it was going to be a lot of stories of extreme hoarders as is presented on the TV show While some examples were discussed, this wasof a self help book to help you purge the clutter from your life Even if you are not an extreme hoarder as depicted on the show I still remember that episode when they were pulling out the dead cat bodies from the clutter and the home owner was like so that s what happened to Fluffy there is lots of good advice that everyone can use including how to organize your stuff and what the shelf life is on certain things There is also a useful section on how to talk yourself out of buying things and an internal dialogue you can have with yourself when you are reluctant to get rid of things It doesn t mean you didn t love your grandmother just because you are getting rid of the Chia pet she gave you when you were ten I am off to purge those old newspapers and magazines now That stack of laundry that needs to be put away does not mean I am lazy, I am a perfectionist Thanks Dr Zasio Dr Robin Zasio, the psychologist from the hit TV show Hoarders, offers self help for those of us with a tendency towards accumulating clutter non hoarders with hoarder tendencies or clutterers using the same professional guidance she gives her hoarder patients This book is amazingly helpful for people wanting to deal with excessive clutter, but readers with even a low level hoarding problem will probably need professional help as this book provides tools but cannot replace an actual th Dr Robin Zasio, the psychologist from the hit TV show Hoarders, offers self help for those of us with a tendency towards accumulating clutter non hoarders with hoarder tendencies or clutterers using the same professional guidance she gives her hoarder patients This book is amazingly helpful for people wanting to deal with excessive clutter, but readers with even a low level hoarding problem will probably need professional help as this book provides tools but cannot replace an actual therapist and won t magically turn a hoarder into a self starter who is capable of decluttering.She begins by identifying some of the many reasons behind hoarding tendencies and explaining the most common cognitive distortions underlying them These are all or none thinking seeing things in black or white categories overgeneralizing seeing a single event as a never ending pattern discounting the positive rejecting positive experiences mind reading claiming to know the usually negative thoughts or feelings of others with no solid fact to support these conclusions fortune telling anticipating that all future events will turn out badly and treating the prediction as it were an established fact catastrophizing expecting the worst possible outcome and responding to the prediction as though it is true emotional reasoning I feel this way, so it must be true believing negative emotions reflect reality should statements trying to motivate one s self with should or shouldn t statements as if a punitive voice is required for action labeling attaching negative labels to one s self or others, an extreme form of overgeneralization.Dr Robin also challenges these thinking errors and provides alternative thoughts.She explains the difference between collecting and stockpiling 82 and between being a saver and a pack rat 84 On page 151, she identifies the three biggest traps that people fall into when attempting to declutter and the alternative views that will allow you to over come 1 Trap I m afraid that I ll need it and regret throwing it away Alternative view If you haven t used it in a very long time and don t see a specific date by which you will use it, it s very likely that you will never need it If you do, you can acquire another of the same item, either by borrowing or buying it secondhand if price is an issue 2 Trap I m afraid that I ll never get it back if I throw it away Alternative view While you may never get that specific item back, the likelihood of a negative outcome resulting from not having the item is minute What s , if you do need it, there may well be a better version available at the time 3 Trap My relative or loved one would have wanted me to keep it Alternative view You loved this person , and keeping or discarding any item doesn t change that fact There are other ways of honoring him or her than keeping something that takes up space and makes youoverwhelmed Some of the most helpful advice is about letting go of things that were gifts, belonged to an era of your life that is over, that have no current use or use in the foreseeable future, that you keep just in case, that might still be useful, that were freebies, that you don t want to waste, that have sentimental value, and that belonged to a deceased relative or loved one Below is the advice that I found to be gems.The tendency to keep things just in case is one that most of us encounter Dr Robin s sage advice is There s nothing wrong with saving things that you think you might need in the future, or things that might be of value But there s a fine line between being smart and planning ahead, and saving anything that could conceivably be of use to someone else in the near future, which can lead to excessive clutter 83 It may have a use, but if you don t have use for it in the moment, you are not going to make ituseful by keeping it in a drawer It is not wasteful to get rid of something you don t need You are not responsible for making use of everything that crosses your path 124.Another strong impulse that leads to clutter is not wanting to throw away anything that might be useful Dr Robin s advice to combat this is We hear so much about overcrowded landfills and recycling and reuseIt makes it very difficult to throw anything away that s not rotting or utterly useless, even if you have no plans to use it But is it any better to treat your home or your yard like a landfill Instead of throwing away excess things, we simply keep them, store them, stockpile them, and only very occasionally use them The end result is a house full of clutter, and that, too, is a waste 90.In dealing with good deals and freebies, remember It s not a good deal, no matter how inexpensive it is, if you re not going to use it, if you already have another like it at home that will expire if you don t use it, or if it takes up space, which causes you stress 120 Free things can be very costly 127 It is also important to keep in mind that Free things are rarely free, and cost you big in terns of clutter, disorganization, and even money 129.Dr Robin provides a helpful sidebar on pages 86 and 87 about how to determine if you are saving sentimental items because you are stuck The best piece of information in this section is the distinction between taking good care of the things you save and saving items that get piled in the back of a closet, hidden under a bed, or stored in an attic or basement and possibly damaged by water or dust 87.She recommends against saving things simply because they are a part of your past, reminding the read that they are not dishonoring the person they were by getting rid of items that are no longer relevant to who they are now Unfortunately, she doesn t go into much detail about feeling compelled to keep things just because they were gifts Dr Robin only comments, Sometimes it feels like we should save things simply because they were given to us, not because they re meaningful or useful 83.Dr Robin lists her Rules for Clutterers on page 131 Rule 1 One in, one out.Rule 2 No homeless items If you re considering bringing something into your home, you must be able to identify where it will live or what it will replace.Rule 3 Be able to identify how and when you are going to use the item In addition to a home, the item needs a plan.Rule 4 Do things in the moment If you put it off, you re unlikely to ever get around to it.Rule 5 No duplicates.Rule 6 If it needs to be fixed in some way, it doesn t come it Faroften than not, you won t get around to repairing it If you re trying to cut back on clutter, nothing broken or in need of refurbishing should cross your threshold.Dr Robin also includes a sidebar with the OHIO only handle it once Rule for decluttering developed by Dr Randy O Frost on page 149 If it s broken, it goes If it smells, it goes If it s contaminated with bugs, mold, or animal droppings, it goes Ask yourself if you have a use for it at a specific point in the future If not, it goes Are you giving it to someone on a set date in the future If not, it goes Does it have a home If not, then it either goes, or something else does to give it a home.Dr Robin also includes her own question checklist of questions to help the reader determine whether or not to get rid of an item on pages 158 and 159.1 Is it functional 2 Do you love it 3 Is it a classic or utilitarian item 4 Is there a worthy story attached to the item 5 Does the story make you feel good 6 Is the item relevant to your life So, so good And timely I got a lot out of understanding myself and others Professional advice from someone who actually has kids I can finally get rid of some of the silly things I ve been hanging on to and maybe even be slightly less judgmental of others maybe This book is for everyone who has belongings not just hoarders I just happen to be purging at the moment so my head is in the zone and very open to the idea of letting things go. I planned to take today off Instead, I ended up doing chores, cause I had this audiobook playing.